Describe what the fine line between compassion and being walked on is.
Thursday, May 6th, 2004Compassion is being able to relate to some other being, realizing what they are going through, empathising, and if you follow through, helping to ease their suffering as best you can. It doesn’t mean allowing them free reign to walk all over you, at least, not knowingly. There are times when it’s a very fine line indeed. The trouble is, when you have an emotional investment in another person, it can be difficult, if not impossible, to realize when someone is lying to you. If you love someone, you believe in them, even if your faith in them later turns out to be misplaced faith.
There is such a thing as “tough love,” too. You can’t help someone, especially those with some sort of addiction, unless they first want to seriously help themselves. You step in and fix things too many times and they begin to rely on you to get them out of every uncomfortable situation they encounter. Sometimes refusing to help is the best thing you can do to spur them to action in helping themselves. You have to learn when to say “No” and stick to it. Showing them an alternate choice of action and watching to see whether they show interest in another way can also be very telling as to their true intentions.

